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I've read a number of articles about how certain types are supposedly best suited with one or two other types. In particular, I keep reading about how INTJs are supposed to be best matched with ENFPs. Now, admittedly I haven't met many ENFPs (actually only one, who is my Mum's boss) but from what I've read lately it actually sounds like a terrible match. Judging from the one ENFP that I've met, and also from what I've read they seem to be quite unpredictable, emotional, compulsive, and a bit hyper active. Not meaning to bash ENFPs here, but this just seems like a very strange match. For instance with myself, I like to know that once someone makes a committment that they are actually going to follow through with it and not just change their mind on a whim so they can move onto something new. I actually find that type of behaviour very unsettling. I also have a strong distaste for people expressing their emotions too frequently, I find this equally draining.
Anyway, I was just wondering whether anyone other INTJs felt the same way or whether there were trends at all regarding who we are most compatible with.
Anyway, I was just wondering whether anyone other INTJs felt the same way or whether there were trends at all regarding who we are most compatible with.
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Re: Is there truly any trend in compatibility between types?
Fri, April 17, 2009 - 10:15 AMYou might enjoy reading my article on this topic -- it was published in the Association for Psychological Type's magazine last year:
www.typeinsights.com/Relationships.html
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Re: Is there truly any trend in compatibility between types?
Fri, April 17, 2009 - 9:30 PMSo, the answer is probably not really, at least not overwhelmingly. In all honesty, I've met people of one type with whom I really click, and then there will be others of the same type whom I can't stand. And I guess it also depends of what you're looking for in a relationship to a point, aswell. Further to my post, I think that ENFPs probably match better with INTJs as friends, rather than as a romantic partner generally speaking. Well, for me anyway.
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Re: Is there truly any trend in compatibility between types?
Thu, November 5, 2009 - 3:55 PMi am INTJ and my husband is ENFP. I find that we balance eachother. It is a lot of work sometimes, but we both learn a lot about ourselves and eachother through disagreements. He reminds me to open up and try new things, while I teach him to calm down and count the cost before leaping into a new adventure. We are both very stubborn and firm in our opinions, but he is better at resolving conflicts, the first to say sorry, and I can't imagine anyone else being able to deal with and humble me. If left apart we would have both become overly self-willed intolerable people. Together we somewhat blend in with others a little better. It works if both can learn to compromise equally.