I am an INTJ. My husband is an INTP. We ahve a wonderful relationship - he is my best friend. We talk about everything - often excluding people close to us as we are caught up in our own little world. Because we are rational, we rarely get into "fights". Though when we hurt each outher (always unintentional), it's very painful. The bright side is that we can talk it through until the issue is resolved.

I am an INTJ and my partner is an ENFP. We are completely different and fight all the time, but she accepts my oddities which is very important to me.

My partner is an ENFJ. We compliment each other fairly well. And like some others we can talk things through very well. The place we most often have issues is around emotionality. She is more emotional than I, and even comes from an emtional place as her center where I come form an intellectual center.

Sometimes she wants me to connect more with her emotionally or at least be more sympathetic or understanding. She's quite good at intellectualizing her emotions and other things we discuss, so it has been more something for me to work on. I need to allow her emotions not to effect me so much that I don't pull away.

We have found that being aligned at "J" helps. When there is a difference between P and J it seems that there is more likely to be tnesion in a relationship. One wants things more defined and the otehr keep things open. It makes it very hard to handle all of the negotiations of an intimate relationship.

Good lord, if I were partnered with someone who is as deep an introvert as I am, we'd never leave the house.

If I were partnered with someone who takes refuge in logic as easily as I do, we'd stay in the house all the time, never speaking to each other or anyone else.

I'm frankly not sure what my partner's type is, but she's as extroverted as I am introverted. She's butch and pushy and cries easily. We complement each other well.

currently partnerless (boo hoo), but had the best conversations and sex of my life with an INTJ partner I was involved with on and off for about 8 years.

I'm an INTJ, and had a couple relationships with other INTJs... found it didn't work for me at all to be with someone so very similar to me. I once read somewhere that the way to find your best mate was to think of some traits you don't posess but wish you did, and then hook up with someone who posesses them (seeking out your ideal self, I think they called it). In my case, I always very much admired those who had an easy confidence around other people, and the ability to talk to anyone and make friends quickly. I myself (like most INTJs) can be a bit socially akward and have difficulty understanding others (mostly when they are not T types and therefore behave in ways that seem utterly irrational and incomprehensible to me). I've now been with an ENFP for about 3 years, and it works out great! He kinda walks the line between T and F, so he can deal with my extreme T-ness, but he also has made me more emotional (in a good way). His P vs. my J can cause a bit of strife, but we never fight and are always able to discuss things in a calm manner :).

As a side note, I've only ever dated (more than once, anyway) other N types (never S types)... if we don't have that trait in common, I find that I might as well be trying to talk to someone who only speaks Swahili.